Sunday, March 14, 2010


Where am I located within my "country" of awareness--regarding the "states" of physically, psychologically, & spiritually.......................???

1. If I were to rate myself on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being optimal wellness on my various well beings, where do I stand?

a. Physical Well-Being: 8

WHY? At this point in my life, I do not have and have not had any life-threatening diseases or illnesses. I am physically active, and have been my whole life! In addition, I rank my physical well-being as an 8 because I have always maintained a "normal" weight according to the BMI calculations.

b. Psychological Well-Being: 7

WHY? At this point in my life, I believe that my psychological well-being is a 7 because I have never had an major mental problems. I have been blessed with a healthy body and brain, and have always been able to achieve really high grades and make Dean's List. The reason why I don't give myself a 10 is because I have had times lately when I feel kind of depressed. My boyfriend works in the music industry so he is constantly gone, and I don't get to see him that much. Therefore, when I am home alone and missing him, and I tend to feel a little weak mentally. However, I am working my hardest at becoming a stronger person mentally.

c. Spiritual Well-Being: 7

WHY? I chose the number seven also for my spiritual well-being because I am Roman Catholic, and have always felt like I have a strong connection with god. However, since I was younger I have began to slack with attending church like I used to every single Sunday faithfully. Since I live in a new city, and didn't have anyone to go with I lost the importance. I went back for the first time in a looooong time because I found a friend to go with!!! It felt so good to be back. Throughout the time that I did not attend mass, I did keep a strong relationship with my faith and spiritual side of well-being through prayer and worship.

2. My goals--->

a. Physical goal: I will keep my weight where it is now, and never allow myself to weigh more than 120lbs since I am only 5'2''. As well, I will keep up my high level of physical activity going in order to maintain my current weight.

b. Psychological goal: In order to keep myself sane, I will learn to deal with the fact that I can't see my boyfriend everyday.

c. Spiritual goal: I will continue to go to church every Sunday, even if I have to go by myself.


***For my physical goal, I will take part in yoga more often, and work on my cardiovascular fitness at least 3 times a week.

***For my psychological goal, I will make certain to keep stress management tools close to me so that I can effectively deal with stress and life obstacles through learning to look at things differently with a positive interpretation.

***For my spiritual goal, I will continue with prayer, and force myself to go to church even if I cannot find one of my friends to come with me.

4. After I completed the listening exercise "The Crime of the Century", I felt both inspired and fustrated at different times. I felt ispired and relaxed during the beginning when the music was smooth and the breathing exercise was uplifting. I began to get fustrated a little bit when the author told me to think about various colors. Specifically I thought of blood when he told me to think of something's red, which gave me an off feeling.


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  2. Hi Ashley,

    First, I would like to say that I am happy that you have the confidence to share your feelings and goals with us. That is an accomplishment within itself. Thank you!

    Second, although I know nothing of the music industry, I do know the feeling of loneliness when your significant other is not around. It seems as time passes slowly, frustration sets in if you do not hear from them as often as you'd like, and you often wonder how to occupy your time.

    I think you should keep doing whatever it is that you are currently doing. Taking time out for yourself and staying active. You are already maintaining your weight by eating right and exercising. You are taking care of your mind with continuing your education. And you have just begun going back to church. When you find yourself getting lonely and missing your man, I would sit down and write your thoughts down or keep a journal. You could also sit and relax to watch a good movie--romance, comedy, thriller--or listen to music you know makes you feel better. Create a serene atomsphere of candle light, soft music, and a bubble bath. Find what works for you.

    As for church, I applaud you for going back. Some individuals do not believe in going and others just do not believe in church at all. I know being a Roman Catholic is different from other religions but if you don't find it comfortable, find some place that lifts your spirit and touches your soul. Find information on the web or by reading books about ideas you have questions about. You always want to be a spiritual individual rather than religious. Big difference!

    Otherwise chica, from my point of view, I believe you are headed in the right direction. Just remember we are only human.

    Blessings upon you this evening and on the rest of your life.

  3. Hey Ash, thanks for sharing a part of you through this blog post. I love reading about people...especially my classmates who I don't ever meet. So this is nice, and still educational! I just wanted to comment on your spiritual well-being. I had that mentality that I could not/would not go to church unless I had someone to go with (this is when I moved to another city for college). I fell off my spiritual path. It was not fun. It took me awhile to get back on. What helped me was finding a new church to call home. I was visiting several since I was new to the area, but never found one to call home. Then one Sunday I did. I knew it was home when I could go and would want to go...even by myself. You can do it!!!

  4. Hi Ashley,

    Love the photos on your blog of you and your husband. Very nice! Your personality really shines through too. :) I know how it is to want to do something like go to church when you don't have someone to go with. Some times we have to push ourselves to do the things we don't want to do and afterwards we feel so thankful we went. For me, that's like exercising. I do not like the thought of exercise and sweat but I know it's for my own good and will eventually lead to healthier and happier outcomes if only I would follow-through. Some times I feel as if I find excuses not to exercise while other times I wonder where I would even find the time. Feels like a catch-22 for me at times. You should try finding time to go to church and you will feel like a new inspired person each time you leave. The choir and music are so beautiful and inspirational. I can't explain the feeling you receive once you listen to the voices that sound so beautiful. I have faith in you and know you can do this. Hang in there and set a small goal for yourself each week that you will go to church for starters.